on people getting all pissy about ally week
in my personal experience as a bisexual woman, do you know what allies are? they’re the straight cis people who decide to march with you in NYC pride for no goddamn reason on a hundred degree day. they’re the older brother who comes to your defense and threatens to murder anyone who calls you a dyke. they’re the people who don’t flinch when you talk about your relationship problems, regardless of the gender of your partner. don’t hit you with such gems like “bisexuals are confused. they can’t pick one and stick to it.”
they understand it, or at least try to.
and when you’re going through crises and you’ve grown up in a church that despises half your sexual identity from the get go, sometimes they’re what you need. and like every other person who does something nice for you, they deserve to be thanked. at least, that’s how i see it.
until LGBTQ* people stop getting harrased by the homophobic and the like, there will always be straight people who step out into the fray and come to their defense. and like it or not, the rocks of our opponents might hit them as well. if they’re in this with us in all respects for the exception of their identity, i offer them eternal respect. they don’t have to be here. they could just roll with the status quo and give us dirty looks when we pass by.
they don’t, however, because - like many of you said - they’re decent human beings. but in a world full of assholes, a few of whom might actually make it into political office and push forth their discriminatory agenda, sometimes decency is actually worth noting.
moreover, when we still have to deal with the douchebags who’d sooner see us dead than give us the rights we deserve, should we really be spurning those who help us? it seems counterproductive.